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Donna R asked in PetsHorses · 8 years ago

I have a 13 year old mare that I adore and couldn't bare to part with but I no longer give her the time,?

attention, and exercise that she needs and deserves. Her comfort and happiness are important to me and I go out of my way to provide the things that increase both of these things for her. She sees a natural farrier every six weeks. He comes out with his wife and she told me I have the best husbandry of any of her clients so I know Bella is more than well cared for but the one thing she doesn't have that I would love to give her is what I had with my first horse at the age of 14. I don't think to this day that I have ever loved another thing on this earth more or had such an incredible relationship with another creature. (better hide this from my husband and I've never had any children in my 53 years on this earth). I would love to find a horse crazy teenager that would give anything to have a horse of their own but cannot afford it but I would rather let my mare lounge around the yard forever than let someone ride her is riding just for the sake of riding a horse. I need someone who will truleysp care for her and take the time to build a relationship with her. I want her to look forward to seeing them the way my first mare looked forward to spending time with me. Also, I would like them to be close enough by that they can either get over here easily or I can pick them up without having to drive forever. Any ideas on how I can go about this will be greatly appreciated. It may sound silly to some of you but this mare is like a child to me and it is really important to me that the person treat her with the same care and kindness that I do. I would of course pay for a number of lessons with an experienced trainer who can judge the fit of the two. But it is the heart that matters most to me. I think my mare is special. She is a beautiful Palomino dun with a long mane and tail and a brown stripe down her back. She is a fast and fancy mover and people always stop and roll down their windows to tell me how beautiful she is. They don't have to be a great rider but they do have to be a confident rider as Bella will take advantage of an insecure rider and I doubt they could get her out of the driveway. But though she can be a handful I think Bella is a blast and she has a really good heart. Thanks for any thoughts on this matter that you may have positive or negative will be appreciated.

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  • 8 years ago
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    Sounds like the oppurtunity i would loved, as its a world wide web, the chanches are were not near each other. Believe me there is alot of kids out there who awaits this kind of opp.

    Try putting up flyers in your town.

    Source(s): Im ridding/carring for my neigbours horse, they are retired and just dont have the energy to go ride and care. Im like leassing, without having to pay :-)
  • 8 years ago

    I have to say Im envious, wish I would have had hindsight so many years ago.... Nuff said about me! I think you are on the right track, so just stand back and let your heart decide... You will know the right one. I hope it gets to be some little horse crazy girl or boy that has that burning yearning horse fever, but parents just can't swing it. The nothing else matters but being able to wrap your arms around the neck of a horse (any horse, just as long as its a HORSE kinda crazy) and bury your nose into their hair and breathe in that sweet horsey odor. The kinda kid that will be just as happy to sit in the pasture brushing and talking to a horse for hours, sitting with them while they eat around you, laying down on the ground with them and finding creative constructive games that only you and horse know. Not caring that you go to a grocery store looking like you never showered and smelling like a barnyard kinda kid, so they can hold onto that moment for just an extra minute. When they take the first ride, second ride, or millionth ride it still is just as fresh and special as the first time. The kind of kid that will touch a hoofprint left by another lucky horse owner, because the yearning of being able to experience a partnership with a horse is the only experience they get through each day for, and that hoofprint, even though they may never see the horse that left it brings them a little closer to horses. Bella and you will know when that person is there before you! Expect mishaps, mistakes, but keep in mind, this is all part of how you learn. Horse experience isnt taught by a trainer, a classroom, a seminar or a book or movie... each horse is a different and new experience and each horse will teach their person(s) differently than the other. You may be surprised that Bella may give you hell to get down the road, but may understand that they have a person that needs more care and a gentler way than you. To see the seed grow into a flower will take time, tongue biting. holding your hands over your eyes (and peeking through the fingers), joy, happiness, sadness and a little jealousy that maybe Bella will do things for someone she wouldnt do for you. The best taught horse person is the person that is willing to allow a horse the time to build a bond before they climb on board for that big first ride... anyone can ride, not everyone can have a best friend in a horse. There is truly nothing else like it! If you get a large response, or its too hard to choose, have the applicants write what a horse means to them in their lives, how it will impact them, what they think they will learn from this opportunity and if they think its important to share their experience with others, and add anything else you feel is most important to you and should be on it. An essay about why they think you and Bella should give them the opportunity. It should also be someone who is not a quitter, is determined to stick it out rain or shine, cold or hot, willing to do any of the other things like cleaning stalls, washing tack, cleaning brushes, walking a sick horse for hours, cleaning poop from water buckets and troughs. Someone who takes good with the bad and can handle constructive criticism when a pointer is needed (which should usually be reserved only for safety reasons, everything else Bella will correct, trust me!) . Remember, you are doing this for Bella, not for you... OR, just get Bella a Goat or Donkey, they are great companions for your horse, entertainment for you and other onlookers, and Bella won't be as likely get bored without you there as often!

  • 8 years ago

    Find her a leaser! Get someone you know or find someone. That way you don't have to sell her or not give her attention. Leasers will help give her attention and help pay for the horse too.

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