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Is there a way to reject a guy without him being a creep, jerk, psycho etc?
I have notice that men have a problem with being rejected. I have been cursed at, yelled at, one guy even through a lighter at me. I've been followed and down right harassed. I'm starting to think 2 out of 3 guys have potential to be a rapist or stalker. No matter how nice I am most guys I say no to go off or act like creepy stalkers. It's like its a crime if you're not interested. And don't say you have a boyfriend. This one guy said and I quote "that’s OK I'm married" then he showed me him ring. I was like just because you cheat doesn't mean I do. Or they give you a whole essay on why you should cheat on your boyfriend with them, their better in bed, you boyfriend's more than likely cheating on you, they have more money etc... I don't get it. Here in New York there are 5 women for 1 men so there's no need to be so passionate about one who doesn't like you. The sad part is it's not just me my sister and some of my friends have the same problem. My sister told me this guy followed her to work after she said she wasn't interested while on the train. This means this guy got off the train with her and kept bugging her until she got to her job. One of my friends said this guy cured her out because she refused to go in his car. Seriously To any guys reading this I gotta know, are you THAT horny you don't realize your being creepy? It pisses me off. I feel like I should not be flipped on, just because I don't want to give you my number. So I want to know the Secret, how can I say no without some guy acting like an *** after wards
2 Answers
- Anonymous9 years ago
I think you need to look at the dynamic of the situation to fully understand the problem. As a female, you probably have had a lot of approaches. If you take a look at it from the guys perspective asking a girl out is one of the most traumatic things they go through. The specter of rejection is always there and when they muster up the courage to ask and get rejected it attacks their self worth to the core of their being. I would suggest that when a guy asks you out that you acknowledge the effort. Thank him for asking you out. Compliment him on the courage he has shown then politely let him know you are not interested with the truth. Don't lie. If the guy does not turn you on for whatever reason let him know. Do this in a POSITIVE and constructive way. If the guy is being a creep about it the chances are he is a player and has worked on his routine. Just let him know that his actions may work on a lot of women, but for you, not so much. Even if the guy is a total jerk with his come on does not mean that you need to be one too.
