About " real " weddings?

I had that same thought today!

I really do think they don't recognize the significance of a wedding in that it is the union in marriage. To them, the wedding is just a bridal fantasy, some rite of passage, like a sweet sixteen party. But, their "real" weddings are like having a sweet sixteen in their twenties...and that's not real. I blame the wedding industry....and these girl's parents.

The new younger generation is into instant gratification and they usually act impulsively.

Often because they are so in looooooooooooooove, they believe they must get married right away to seal the deal and band their mates with a ring. But, they cannot afford a wedding, so they go the cheapest route they can rather than doing the mature thing and save the money and get married when they can afford it.

Some couples rush to get married because he is going into the military.

After wards, these girls regret their choices and want what they see as a "real" wedding. As in, the dress, the bridesmaids, the cake, the reception and want a traditional wedding. These do over weddings are tacky and emotionless and just a charade while all the guests are just puppets in the show.

So, now it is dubbed a "Vow Renewal", which is equally as big as a farce as a "Do Over, Real Wedding". A vow renewal is for mature adults who have gone through trials and tribulations and have found their way back to each other and want to recommit to their initial wedding vows or for couples on their 25th anniversary who want to reaffirm their love. NOT for some 20 something year old kids who were not satisfied with their first wedding day.

I believe it was "The Original Garnet Glitter" who make a hilarious comment about maybe having funeral do overs where people come with close pins on their noses. Ah, I guess you had to read that one for yourself to understand the humor.

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Clearly because the wedding industry/reality TV has "defined" "real" weddings as huge, budget-busting celebrations. Gone are the days of getting married, having a reception in the church basement (like my parents did in the 1950s) or getting married in a church and having a reception in a hotel or reception hall (like my siblings and I did in the 1980s). None of that is good enough for this entitled generation. Everything must be bigger and better than the last, and the wedding industry, from the dresses, to the shoes, to the "favors" have perpetuated the trend.

It doesn't "bother" me though, because I'm not that petty. I do find it very interesting, however.

I wonder that same exact thing every time I come in this section, and I don't understand why so many of the answers agreeing with you are getting a thumbs down. Idk who is giving the thumbs down, but odds are it's one of those folks who made a mad dash to the courthouse and then got mad at anyone who told them that having a big to-do at a later date would be in poor taste.

You get one wedding per person that you are married to, unless there is a divorce in between.

The idea of the big white wedding being a must is a myth perpetuated by the multi-billion dollar wedding industry. As you say a legal wedding is a wedding. They could phrase it this way, " I didn't have all of the frills and fancy associated with a big wedding, nor a wedding reception, but I am happily married to the man of my dreams"---but they don't.

They're delusional and want to have their cake and eat it too. The minute you sign the marriage certificate that makes the union legal, that is a real wedding. People can call the blue sky red because it's a popular thing to do but that doesn't make it red.

That really bothers me as well, when people are already married (from the court house or whatever) and then later down the road want a "wedding and reception" I would not attend if they were making it out to be as dramatic as a first wedding. You get married once, there are no do-overs. If you sacrificed a wedding reception and ceremony to do it at the court house for whatever reason, then you have to be prepared to live with that decision forever!

They have been slickered into thinking that if they don't get the fluff, it doesn't count.

They just don't 'get it'....a wedding is just one big fancy excuse to play pretty princess, and have an 'experience'. They want the 'experience ' of being in the center of the big white wedding. That sets my teeth on edge, equating a wedding as an 'experience'.....a rock concert is an experience...a 3D action movie is an experience.....a vacation is an experience....a cross country trip is an experience....jeeze, a bad crampy menstruation is an experience fer Pete's sake.....so is major surgery and root canals!

A wedding is a rite of passage...a sacred commitment to one's beloved....where do these gals come off by degrading it as an 'experience'?

..and they wonder why the divorce rates are so high.......to them it's just an excuse to have a fancy party.

As long as we are calling it what it is, most of these are not vow renewals- they are fake do-overs!

I have no idea how a marriage, ordained by an officiant and recognized by a state, could somehow not be "real". The insinuation that its worthless, makes me really sad for all the husbands who do feel that the marriage is real.

I want to eat my own eyeballs when I see that "I didn't have a real wedding so I want a re do" URRGH!OK love,let's ask your 'fake' husband how he feels then...I have no problem with a genuine vow renewal

I put it down to brainwashing from the bridal industry - apparently a 'real' wedding is made up of a poofy white dress,huge limo and a massive reception with every person you ever met in attendance.Clearly these women regret their choice and want to 'put it right' (although why they think a 'renewal' will change that I do not know)