How can I help my fiance loosen up in the bedroom?

There are sexual therapists who couples go to in order to discuss these problems. Find one. your local hospital can make a referral or check your medical plan providers

I am sorry and really wish you can turn him around.

I am just the complete opposite! so cannot even imagine the situation.

One thing is it obvoius his lack of interest. This also could mean his interest is consumed elesewhere. What is it? sport?

I kind of agree with David F too.

However if you want to stickaround with him then,

I will suggest a good trick to get it going or him . If he is a big sports fan, then buy him and you some tickets for his favourite gaem , and go with him in some sexy cloths ( no panties etc ), this way he will appreciate you for the gift and hopefully return the favour.

Just dont buy him a PS3 or something , you wont be able to ge him off that.

Too bad he does not get aroused by porn , how about you arrange him a massage from another woman ( you can do a double massage on him you and the woman on him if he goes along with it )

Really to be honest its going to be hard to change him. The only thing you can do is talk to him about it and tell him exactly how you feel. The love he has for you will make him want to change in some way so you can stay together. No holding back, put it all on the table. You have been his fiance for at least eight years and your still not married yet. Your problem is big, I don't know how old you are but its a reason why he is like the way he is. Most men want sex in one form or another. Maybe something happen to him in his life or maybe he is gay. (SORRY) Don't get mad, I don't know I could be 100% wrong, I'm just saying something is strange. Talk to him openly, and maybe you all can get it together and set a marriage date. But please don't go into a marriage where you are already having problems. You screaming on the inside and him looking into space. Work it out first, make hard decisions and become the naughty girl you were born to be.

Eve

I hate to say it, but maybe he's the type that needs YOU to initiate everything, and then after a while maybe he'll start doing it himself. He may think you don't want it... even though thats hard for you to believe. I'd say be sexy and have sex with him frequently (assuming he's willing), and ask yourself to do a different position, or try something else yourself- all assuming he doesn't STOP you (like maybe he won't initiate something- but maybe he will be willing? if thats the case just do it!

After a while he may actually begin to open up. Men are surprisingly actually creatures of habit. I'd argue after 7 years he doesn't expect anything different or plan to do anything different, nor does he probably even think different is possible. You take the lead! Even if your not all that comfortable with it!

Something bad must've happened to him in his childhood and he never mention it to you. Maybe you guys should go see a therapist or something and maybe he can open up about this issue. Honestly I don't see how things can work if he refuse to change. From what you described, you are a very sexually active girl, and he's the complete opposite. I don't know if you will be willing to give it up and live the way he does. If you have tried everything else and it's still not helping, you got to think hard if you really wanna spend the rest of your life with him.

difficult situation, I would start off for praising him when he does do something differently. Even if he is not doing if for example. tell him baby i love it when you moan and talk to me, lets say you are the aggressor just tell him, it drives me wild when you are aggressive. He seems prudish...it must be hard having to stifle all of your sexual feelings. If all else fails you should be honest...I understand that you arent into these things but i am, so if you could indulge me once in a while...This issue should be addressed before the wedding even if you have to seek a sex therapist.

The best thing you can do, is not to put pressure on him. On your honeymoon, he might actally be racing to try to get it over with because of anxiety. Slow him down. Make sure he knows that he can fumble. And that you can funmble, too, and be clumsy. Laugh at yourself (not at him, at least at first:)). Compliment him. Make the bed a safe, fun place. I guarantee this is a formula for a foundation for a mutually growth-experiencing satisfying sexual/personal journey - P.S. Tell him he was so good afterwards. Build his confidence. It will pay off ten fold for you next time:)

If it took 7 years for him to get past the missionary position - whew! - I would not expect much. Chances are you are signing on for a lifetime with him changing very little in this regard. If you are OK with that, then go ahead. I suspect he is who he is in that way, and he is not going to change after you get married.

WOW..start small with him bc you have a long road ahead and the most important thing is communicate ask him why he is this way and see if he has been traumatized in any way...it could be deeper than you are thinking and don't marry until this is resolved bc you will cheat bc of your desires and sex drive...the red flags are already up...get some conseling and be patient but you can't fix this alone

My advise dont' marry him. I know this sounds a bit harsh but trust me you and him won't jive been there myself. He can try to be more assertive or outgoing you can talk to him he wil try but he wil revert back to his intervert self and in the long hall you'll be pulling out your hair and feel your always the one trying in or out of the bedroom this not only affects the bedroom but daily living and decisions. His reservation of emotions will carry through to the way you dress to who you hang out with etc.. its a big mess and will grow bigger.

Your asking the age old question guys just don't have the answer for.

You may try beating him unconscience with a 10" d*ldo, hehehe. Just being a guy. That's my honest thought.

* If nothing else, it will help your frustration.