teen pregnancy question - australians please.?

i hate to say this, but i'm going to (and don't hit me because it comes from experience)

i gather you are the older sister. I am also an older sister.

Do you remember saving your sisters butt as a kid? cleaning up their mess so they wouldn't get in trouble? or saving them from bullies at school? we all have different ways of doing it but the fact is, big sisters bail little sisters out.

this continues into adulthood and little sisters often come to rely on it to a certain extent and in some cases (where the person already has irresponsible tendancies, as with both our sisters) it becomes a pattern in other relationships. This in turn feeds big sisters need to save little sister, which is what you want to do now- right? STOP

The more you try and help her the less likely she is to ever help herself. step back. love her and her child but do not try and influence her decisions, when he bails (as they all do) she will fall, it will hurt her. And it will probably hurt you to watch it. but DO NOT COME TO HER RESCUE! She will find strength within herself that neither of you ever thought she had and she will make you proud. This is the best gift she will ever receive from you, and bubba too. Welcome to being an aunty! It's a strange and wonderful club to be in and we are very happy to have you join.

xo

N

I wonder if this boy knew she was trying to get pregnant? Do you know what his feelings are towards her - I mean, is she just a casual fling to him, or something more? But anyway, she sounds very irresponsible to me. I've met women like her before - they make me sick. I have no doubt that sooner or later he'll leave her holding the baby, especially if she's tricked him into this. I tend to agree with your view - it's just so wrong, but unfortunately I doubt that you'll be able to make her see that. The best thing you can do is take a back seat - as someone else said, let her make her own mistakes and don't bail her out. She got into this mess herself, so she'll have to deal with it. Be interesting to see how she feels in a year's time when she has a screaming baby to take care of 24/7 and the father's buggered off.

i believe let her sort it out as she made her bed now she has to lay in it if she is so excited about being pregnant then maybe tell her to get the dole cause she will need money for doctors visits ultrsounds and hospital visits since she doesnt have a car public transport is not to cheap and as for this boy she met just cause he earns good money she cant expect him to provide her with all the money she needs to put in as well

Know the old saying...you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink? If your sister is determined to live this way, there is nothing you can do. She is going to have to learn from her own mistakes. The best you can do is be there for the baby, who will need some stability.

he will realise sooner or later that she is using him! He may very well want to take care of her though?

Its a tough situation. She needs to smarten up and put her baby first. I don't know what advise to give but just be there for her and her baby.

sorry to be honest you can't say or do anything, this is something they need to figure out on there own. You can't guide them if they are on a path they like and feel is right. I would let her learn as she goes along, nothing you say will change her thinking.

If she won't listen to you, maybe you should warn this guy about how she acts. Also it seems as though she sees this guy as a meal ticket, are you sure the baby is even his?