when couples have a BIG guest list (150+) - how many of the guests are really significant in their lives?

A wedding is not just for the couple, it is for the family. Quite often, over the years, others in the family and yes, business contacts, have invited your parents to their family weddings, so their own family wedding is a chance to reciprocate, to socialize. There were very few I didn't know at my wedding, there were almost 200, but each was there for a reason. We dealt with it when we did the guest lists. With us having a receiving line mid-reception, we met everyone, and it was wonderful.

Most couples respect their parents enough to understand this. In my case, I was also the last daughter to marry, so it was the last chance for a big to-do and we all loved everything and every minute of it.

Some people choose to have teeny weddings - I don't "knock them" (what a quaint expression) for that - it's all what you want and plan for.

Obviously the first three answerers have no friends or family.

I have a huge family, and my guest list will be large, not sure of the exact number yet. And I am even cutting most of the cousins out! On my moms side of my family alone there are about 50 people, and my dad's side is just as large. Then there are our close friends, about a dozen, maybe more.

Fortunately, his family is not nearly as large as mine, and we'll be able to get away with about 20 there.

While I'm not super close, tighterthananything with all the people on my list, most of them would be very hurt if they weren't invited. And then there are times where if you invite one grown child of a relative, you must also invite the other grown child.

The way I see it, big weddings are more for family than they are for the bride and groom. Don't get me wrong, weddings are one of the most important days in a persons life, but you're still married, whether you do it at the courthouse or whether you have a packed-full church.

I didn't talk to very many guests at my reception. I had 150. But I did have a recieving line, so I was able to great and thank people for coming. Most of the people that were there were of my mother's friends and family. Quite sad, when my husband and I foot the bill. But if I could do it all over again, I would have had a smaller wedding. Much cheaper.

My list is past that number and that is just the people we are close to, parents,brother & sisters, cousins and our wedding party (all close friends). I think it just depends on their guest list. Many do invite friends of the family, co-workers, friends of parents so it caies, like I said ours is still people close to us and we havent include second cousins or the friends of parents.

I think it would be difficult to speak to many people, especially because time flies and so much is happening at the same time.

It really depends. Sometimes they have a lot of family, or they want everyone they care about to share their day. Maybe parents padded the lists, and maybe some are coworkers. A good number might be dates (those +1) of the people they really care about.

We invited 150 people to our wedding. We invited 50 of our friends (and their dates), 50 of my family, and 50 of his. Just with the family, there were lots of people we had to cut out...we each have large families, and that's only going as far removed as first cousins. About 130 people came, and either me or my husband spoke to each one personally.

It is not unusual to have two sides of family be 50-60 people.

I invited about 40 college friends and their significant others (I had a lot of friends in school) and my husband had about 15-20.

Graduate school friends (where we met) = about 10. High school friends = 5.

That's 120-135 before adding coworkers (another 20).

My parents have lived in the same house and gone to the same church their entire lives. People who saw me grow up = 50-75. No problem. Yes I know all their names. Yes I can tell you about their lives, their children, their jobs.

People who watched my husband grow up = about 10. (his parents aren't as social and moved around a bit as well)

And -- if your friends and family have started having kids, that's another 20 people. Yes, I want my friends and cousins' kids there.

Did we talk to everyone -- well at least to say hi. We also had events all weekend, Friday night, Sunday brunch and so I definitely felt like I was able to talk to everyone and still enjoy my wedding with my husband.

Depends on the couple, the guest and why they were invited.

I come from a large extended family, for a family wedding, 150 guests would hardly cover first cousins and their families!

And everyone of them really really matters to me,and if they took the time from their lives to come to my wedding and help me start a new phase in my life, I would take the time to speak with each and every one!

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I invited 212 people to my wedding, 125 people came. My husband and I personally spoke to every one. The only people I didn't know well were ones that worked with my mom and dad. I have a big family.

On the average, 25-30% of the people invited, show up. When they have such a big list, they are putting down everyone they have ever known, and trying to impress someone.

Need to be realistic because hey, its only money right??? Well, they have have it to spend for 150+ people, whether they all show up or not, they still out that money.