My mom and i got in a really big fight!?!?

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Hello my name is Daniella and I'm 15 years old. in my family there is me, my mom and dad (who are together) my older sister who is 20, and my two baby twin brother and sister who are 1 year. so im not really going to go over the whole back story because it is pretty personal but i am not as close with my mom as i am with my dad. My mom just doesn't understand me as much as my dad and my dad and i are very much alike. So today, my mom said something very unnecessary because she KNEW it would make my dad and i angry and i replied to her "why would you say that. that is rude and not necessary. you are just trying to start something that doesn't need to be started." so she got mad and told me to shut up and i said "you too" and when i said that , she completely lost it. she started calling me a b**** and told me to go to hell and she said she wishes she never had me and she doesn't want to have any type of relationship with me and i disgust her and I'm a brat etc. This entire time of her calling me these names i was just nodding my head and saying " okay" and she just stormed out of the house.Now she won't talk to me at all and when i try to talk to her she will just ignore me or say "i dont know" i know this isn't my fault but i just need input.

Sarah · Answer

Pretty tough situation here but if I'm being honest, I would not want to have her in my life after what she said. I know it's seems harsh and crazy but sometimes you just have to cut those people out of your life bc you don't need that kind of energy around you; even if it is family. You're putting the effort in trying to talk to her and rekindle with her but she has to meet you half way there; it can't be a one sided relationship. Yes it'll hurt like a ***** not having your mom there with you, but don't waste your time trying to build something with someone that won't appreciate you. Another part of me wants to tell you to give it your all into trying to rekindle w/ your mom; to do everything possible to get her to talk to you and give it your 110% and if she still doesn't give you a chance then let it be and know in your heart that you gave it your all and crossed oceans for her and did everything possible, but it was her fault for not letting you in. That way you're more at peace.

Callie · Answer

You have every right to be mad at your mom. I'm really sorry that your situation is not good right now. My advice is to leave her an apology note even though it was NOT your fault. My mom does this a lot and always thinks she is right, so I just apologize to end it. She will probably forgive and hopefully she will apologize in return

? · Answer

oh what a hot mama you have. something has happened here I feel it. some parents are close and other just aren't. what she said are just  "words"... learn to ignore them for your own sanity. if you don't. it may haunt you your whole life. chin up.

Pearl L · Answer

maybe you should apologize and if shes being mean to you cps might be able to find you another home

My mom and i got in a really big fight!?!?

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