Do you think that we should be able to get a divorce on the grounds of PRETENSE?

check with your attorney as your state might have "no fault" divorce wherein you don't have to prove anything you just have to agree to split.

I found that it's not that family is cooperating in any scam it's just that they love their blood relative (you're not a blood relative) and accept them without question, and maybe you never thought about it but he's probably mimicking his family and they have no idea that what their family does irritates you because it's normal to them.

Some who become control frieks do have a little ocd which strengthens over the years, others have nothing else in their life to control to make themselves feel better (and because you're around you get the brunt of it), and still other have been in the military (and maybe too long) where they either took orders or gave orders and it was the biggest part of their life and they were so involved in it that they brought it into the marriage....but whatever, both sides have faults....and that's why they created "no-fault" divorces. Talk with your attorney and start the process but only after you've saved a bunch of money for yourself and your attorney because you're going to need it getting off on your own. It would be best if you and your husband could talk sensibly about this and decide who gets what property before the split so that the attorneys won't get all your savings and put you in the poor house.

It's called no-fault divorce and it's been effective in Michigan and many other states for a very long time. A divorce when there's no children involved can take as little as a few months, and in some cases you can obtain a legal annulment. However, when there are children, it takes a little longer (as it probably should).

Not on pretense but if you can prove the person either lied to you or is abusive to you, then you can get a divorce

Anyone who wants out of a marriage should be able to leave without a fight. Who wants someone who doesn't want them, disrespects or abuses them? No point in making life miserable for two people.

Divorce?

I can't see any point in getting married to begin with.

I've made that mistake twice.

If only I'd known then what I know now!

Yes without a doubt, no one likes to be duped and should avoid being conned again at all costs.

I think you can divorce on the grounds that you don't want to be with someone any more. Simple as that.

If your in the US, you don't need a reason.