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Dad won't let me have my boyfriend sleep over?

I'm 16 and my boyfriend is 17 we've been going out for a year and 2 months.

I asked my dad if dan can stay for the night and dad said no, I asked him why not and dad didn't answer. But he said girls can only sleep boys houses, not boys sleep girls houses, I found that quite offensive and sexist.

My dad and dan get on very well so I don't know why he won't let him stay, I'm allowed to stay dans but his mum won't let me for some reason.

I just want to find away so then my dad will let my boyfriend stay just for one night! He lives 14 miles away from me, we only get to see each other on weekends as that's the only time my dad will let me go.

Does anyone have any ways too let my dad allow my boyfriend to sleep over just for the night.

Update:

I do everything for my father and btw I can't drive I live in the uk!

Update 2:

None of these answers are actually helping.

Update 3:

Ever since I turned 16 dan has been asking for me to stay his and his mum won't let me :/

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  • 8 years ago
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    Just a heads up, you probably wont think my answer is helping either.

    Your dad is being completely reasonable, my dad would never allow my boyfriend to stay the night with me, and I'm 17, my boyfriend 18.

    Frequently, all fathers of teenage girls what to do is to keep them protected and innocent for as long as possible, and that largely includes ensuring their child stays away from sex for as long as possible. Whilst that may not be the direct reason for your dad not allowing your boyfriend over, you cannot blame him for trying to protect his child as he sees fit.

    However, your question was for ways to convince your dad to allow your boyfriend to say over. I would suggest a mature conversation in which you discuss the issue of sex, and convince your dad why your boyfriend staying over is not just an excuse for you to have sex. This would be your chance to assure your dad that you are responsible and have only honourable intentions of wanting to spend more time with your boyfriend.

    Good luck, you are a braver girl than me!

  • 8 years ago

    I know how you feel because I was in the same situation. My bf lived in Orange County and I was going to school in San Diego. If your dad doesn't like you driving at night pick your bf up later in the evening and watch movies at the house super late. If your bf doesn't have his car with him and your dad doesn't want you to drive then offer to set up the couch for an over night stay.

    Source(s): experience....
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    4 years ago

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  • 8 years ago

    i started going out with my bf when i was 19/20 and even by the age of about 23 my dad said my boyfriend still wasnt allowed. Hes not gonna suddenly change his mind about something like this. dads r funny about it.

    You shouldnt be shocked that ur 16 and not allowed.

  • 8 years ago

    Your dad cares about you thats why he said no. If i asked my dad that when i was your age he probably would had slapped me lol. Your only 16 you have plenty of time for sleepovers in the future. Sorry but im your dads side on this one i wouldnt let my daughter do that either.

  • 8 years ago

    Your father's point is valid. If I was a parent and my child wanted their significant other to sleep over, I would also say no. It is inappropriate, even if there is a distance in the relationship.

    Just spend the whole entire weekend together. Not being together for one or two nights isn't going to kill you.

  • ?
    Lv 7
    8 years ago

    He is trying to protect you from the things that can happen after lights out. All fathers do this to some degree. It is time for the boyfriend to get a car, or find someone that lives closer.

  • Stacy
    Lv 4
    8 years ago

    Dads house dads rules try asking your bf to let you stay over there

  • 8 years ago

    offer to have your boyfriend Castrated and then your dad might not be so against it

    they are probably all right with you over there because in reality they know his mom won't allow it

    i have 4 daughters and would never allow this crap

    you want him in your place get your own place 2 years down the road at least

  • 8 years ago

    This is normal. He just doesn't want to have his little girl growing up. When he said you can go sleepover at his house, it's just an excuse. Just prove him that your mature enough and nothing inappropriate will happen.

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