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What should i do? please help!?
I have this friend, isabelle. She's generally not trustable unreliable lazy and not trustworthy so yeah more like a frenemy. Anyway, so it was assembly in school and she started jabbing her elbow in my thigh. I asked her to stop and said it hurt but she wouldnt! so yeah, naturally i yelped in pain, and i got annoyed so i shoved her a little and asked her to stop doing it! (in a more shouty manner but not exactly shouting) and so the teacher saw this, and thought WE were playing and talking and poking each other for fun! so he asked us to stand up and stand in the middle of the hall for all to see. I tried to explain the teacher that she didnt mean it on purpose (which she totally meant on purpose, but to save her some dignity, that was what i TRIED to tell) but the teacher refused to listen.So i looked at her, but she was just smiling and giggling at me! Isabelle! i hissed so many times but she was smiling away. I was so shocked at how she is, she didn't even have that little bit of guts to own up to the teacher or even say she's sorry! now i'm not talking to her she made me cry and be humiliated in front of the school and it was not even my fault! What should i do now? Should i sever all ties with her, (some of my friends suggested that, but i think thats a bit too harsh for a mistake, i;m lenient in nature:P) or should i ignore her until she says sorry,(thats what i think i should do, but i'm not sure, she's always been stupid and never appreciating my help) so yeah, i would like to ask who is in the wrong here and wether she should say sorry, or i should say sorry first and what am i gonna do? by the way, she's the type that won't learn unless its the hard way so what should i do and prevent this from ever happening?
3 Answers
- 9 years agoFavourite answer
Unfortunately, you can't change another person, all you can do is try to change how you let them affect you. I would try semi-ignoring her and focusing on other people and other things. By "semi-ignoring" I mean don't make a big show out of avoiding her at all costs or refusing to speak when she talks to you, just don't spend much time with her and just stay calm and polite but not overly friendly if you have to talk to her. Don't pretend everything is ok, but don't freak out on her or be dramatic either. It's up to her if she wants to decide to change her behavior or apologize. You can tell her how you feel and see what she does, but you can't make her respond a certain way (and even if you could it wouldn't mean anything). Sounds like you should try to move on if she does stuff like this all the time. Maybe when she gets a bit more mature you can be friends again.
- ?Lv 59 years ago
Its been my experience that persons like this, do not learn at all! Not even when its the HARD WAY!
Simply put, she has done this to you because she thinks she will get away with it. If you apologize, it will only reinforce this belief for her, and even encourage further mischief! Your choice! But, life has taught me to NOT try to be the savior of the world's stupid!
Source(s): Life. - 9 years ago
ignore her, if she does that to you, she does not deserve you as a friend, after you hoped to save her some dignity. find some friends that are honest, kind and trustworthy.
