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my daughter has made a new best friend at school and i have become friendly with her mum.lets say her name is karen.i was told karen used to have a drink problem but during our few month friendship i haven't seen any sign of it.i did ask her daughter while she was here playing with my daughter does your mum like wine to which her daughter replied yes she used to but she liked it too much and my gran had to move in.i have fetched up alcohol to karen and she told me she liked the odd white wine spritzer.yesterday morning i met her at school and she asked me if i cud do her a favour.she asked if when i went to shop could i get her some alcohol as her husband was out for the night so she could have a drink because he didnt like her drinking.i got her the alcohol but then she turned up this morning asking if i could get her some more.she actually seemed tipsy and it was 9am.i told her no sorry and she said oh its ok i just fancied a few tonight.how do i handle this.i want to stay friends with her but i dont know what to do.i myself like a drink but this has made things very uncomfortable.i only drink at weekends now and she says she will pop round and have a drink with me.any advice will be greatly appreciated thanx x

Victoria V. · Accepted Answer

A good friend always tells their friends the truth.

You should tell her that her drinking habits are bad for her and her family (seeming as her husband isn't fond of this particular habit and it could very well be a bad influence on her daughter, which in turn might affect YOUR daughter as well). In any case, you should advise her to stay away from such types of drinks, when she's not in a drunken state of mind, as it may anger her instead.

Unfortunately, when you fetched her alcohol, it probably caused her to ask you for some more. Stop. Don't give those sort of things for her anymore. Fact is, you're only feeding her to want more. If you really want to help her and be a good friend at the same time, then I suggest you stop feeding her alcohol.

You also might want to address her fondness of wine as something much more serious: alcohol addiction. That being said, you should ask her and her husband to go to some alcohol-addiction recovery classes or therapist, or you could accompany her yourself.

If she was intelligent and had good common-sense, you might even want to tell her the dangers of drinking too much alcohol. Detailed examples can be read on:

http://www.ehow.com/about_4779561_dangers-drinking-alcohol.html

OR

http://www.ehow.com/about_4569634_what-dangers-alcohol.html

I hope it turns out well with you and your friend :)

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