How do you teach your children to deal with bullies at school?

Kids shouldn't have to deal with bullies, they should be able to tell a teacher and have it dealt with for them. Unfortunately sometimes the teachers need a little motivation to do that.

My son was bullied for years and the teachers did nothing about it until I told them that I gave him permission to push back the next time a kid tried to push him down the stairs, and not to give him trouble about it because they were making his life hell and he had a right to defend himself. Almost immediately they took steps to stop the bullying.

Funny how well they can do that when they want to....

Bullying started up again in high school and he took it straight to the principal who took care of it for him, on the first report. High school has a zero tolerance policy.

You may need to have a private conversation with the teacher just to let the teacher know what is happening.

Things your child should do:

1. Your child should know what to say what being insulted and I am not talking about the "Thanks, so are you!" remarks. I am talking about the "I really don't care" comments. Showing the bully that you don't care, will make them move on.

2. Get a group of friends to hang out with so that their are some bystanders if something happens.

3. Tell the bully sternly to knock it off.

4. Walk away as if the child doesn't hear the what the bully says.

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Make sure they dont tolerate it at all, if they are bright confident children they should not be targets. If they are being bullied tell them to ignore it and tell a teacher. Children can be vicious without knowing the harm they cause, I remember when I was at school a girl transfered because people were so mean to her. I think victims of bullys should be encouraged to think positively of themselves and do things to build confidence build them up because bullys can bring you down and make school really tough, but victims need to rise above those insecure bullys.

My 8 year old had a bully during this past school year. He tried to deal with it himself (walking different direction, staying away on playground, etc) but the kid would not leave him alone.

When he came to me, I spoke with the teacher and they were already aware of the issue. She said they had assigned additional staff to monitor the boys on the playground and during lunch. The other little boy also attended counseling the bulk of the year and toward the end they included my son. Now the boy is nice to my son who is still a little leary of him. But they are playing together now.

my 7 year old daughter is currently going through being "bullied" on the bus.she deals with it in a good manner as I taught her to ignore those who are mean and doing things that are not good and to tell/talk to me,her teacher,principle and bus driver when this happens.The school is excellent about putting a stop to things that should not be going on,as for bus drivers,that can be somewhat complicated.I always tell my children to ignore and if possible walk away from a situation where bullies or mean kids are in action.there are going to be mean people/bullies throughout their lives and they need to learn to ignore ignorant situations.

Some form of self defense class, like boxing, karate, kickboxing etc.

My kids do kickboxing, and it has nothing but a positive impact on them and their confidence. They're not only thought how to defend themselves physically, but the teachers tell them (as a precaution) what situations they ARE allowed to defend themselves using the techniques they have learned.

That's all well and good. The class itself just reinforces what my husband and I tell our kids. We tell them that they have our full support in punching/pushing etc, someone who's starting on them, ONLY if they don't make the first move. If someone starts on my child .... pushes them, then I completely agree with my child to push them back ... if the provoker then moves in to hit my child, then because of the kickboxing classes, my child, will hit them first. Again, I would support them 100%.

I wouldn't condone my child punching someone without being started on though, but hopefully they'll know better when the time comes. My kids have an advantage because of their knowledge of self defense. I've been told it's an unfair advantage, but I disagree with that to a T !

i'm helpful there are quite a few coaching and help aids which will coach little ones approximately bullying, however the tactic that appeared to artwork the superb for me replaced into in simple terms in simple terms discussing the character of bullying. It quite have been given to me while a instructor in college stated bullying in terms of why people bully and the point at the back of bullying. the instructor stated that there are 2 techniques wherein persons can experience greater suitable. One is to artwork no longer elementary to income that feeling of potential and superiority by skills (e.g. diligence, etc). yet in any different case is to make people experience inferior. maximum folk will hotel to the 2d way (via fact it fairly is for sure greater ordinary to place people down than to develop oneself up). What i in my view found out replaced into that bullies are in actuality quite susceptible and feed on people's self-worth (considering that they have not got any themselves). additionally, they're basically as stable via fact the weakest sufferer. as quickly as there is somebody else harder than them (waiting to stand as much as them, forget approximately them etc), they'll finally lower back away. desire this helps. :)

walk away, knowing they are smarter.