Dad died June 2008 and my mother seeing someone .?

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I think morally this is not right.We own a hotel and I work as a manager and when I first met him it was in Febuary and he walked into the motel and she told me to be nice and introuduce myself .I had no clue who this person was so I was of course nice and I thought he was real estate agent for the business.They went to dinner he stayed in a room at the hotel where she lives( above the office) and then met him for breakfast the next morning.I think morally this was not right.My Dad and her were married happily for 45 years and I think it is very disrespectful.What are your opinions on this.She also gloats to people what he has especially to her sister.After I met him I said who is he? She said just a friend I met with a group of people.I wasn't very happy and she said she wants to be by herself and not have to take care of anyone.She is 70 and he is a little older. Anyone have comments on this?

Mr Ed · Accepted Answer

I think it is morally wrong of you to object. Your mother has a right to a life. She is 70 years old, and doesn't have time to go through a 5 year mourning and a 5 year courtship.  People over 65 or so who become widows or widowers often remarry much more quickly than younger people would, for that very reason.  Also, at that age they know their minds; the people they link up with have had time to prove themselves faithful, kind, etc.  or otherwise.
So let her live her life, and if you really want to do her a favour, encourage her.

Harrison H · Answer

I think it is a little early, but at that age, time is very precious.

I dont think your dad would have wanted her to be sad and lonely

Women of that era had alot of theor self identity tied up in having a significant other. She is trying to "validate" herself.

At that age, there isn't a whole lot that they're doing carnally, despite what she may say to her sister

Unless she's in bad health, he's gonna go before she does just based on sheer statistics, he is on borrowed time

I'd just be happy that it's someone her age and not some giggalo type of guy

? · Answer

Your mom is probably lonely and misses the company of a man (nothing sexual implied).  She has a right to her own life, and you have the responsibility to grow up and accept that.

DONT_TRIP27@YAHOO.COM · Answer

i doubt your dad wants to see her sad and lonely.Let her move on and be happy. It's better then seeing her depressed. isn't it.? I'm sure she wont ever forget your father or stop loving him. He'll always be on her mind and well you never know maybe your parents spoke of this way before his death you know.? 

if not then just confront her about it.

Dad died June 2008 and my mother seeing someone .?

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