i was hurt bad by a woman i loved and cant stop thinking of her?

Go see a counselor. I had the same thing happen to me and she wouldn't get out of my head. Going to the counselor helped me out a lot.

You need to get out and meet other ladies. Spend more time with your friends. If you don't want to get help from a counselor find somebody who'll listen. If you want you can talk to me if you want cause I know how it feels. I've been there.

When I went through a similar situation, my friends did so much to help me try to forget that person. One bought me the "hearbreak kit" at Barnes and Nobles, another bought me a "How to Heal a Broken Heart," but I still felt empty, spent most of my times rethinking where and what I did wrong. A couple of things that has helped me: I had to be accepting of the situation and be realistic...because I kept thinking that perhaps, maybe one day, he'd come back, but he didn't. What helped me was seeing others endure similar situation, like a support group, not one that speaks ill of the ex's, that doesn't work. A wholesome environment. And, watching movies that encouraged growth...for example, in the movie, THE HOLIDAY, listen to the words of wisdom...there's a list of movies that can help you see things in a different light, but the best way I found to heal, was to pursue a dream that I could not (either because I was too busy making the other person happy, or just no money available)..once I figured out what I wanted to learn or which fear I wanted to conquer...I went for it. When the ex came back around, he actually told me that he was very proud of me, because he just heard me "talk about it, not be about it." ( I know, so cliche, but it worked for me). So, do for YOU. When was the last time you did something that'd make YOU proud? Believe me, once you are full of pride, it oozes out of your entire semblance.

You have to get out and start meeting people, circulate ! Go where people are. I admit its easier said than done, but its what you must do. Do things to build your life history in your new Era.

Hmm, personally you should have better self esteme and know that if someone hurt you, you deserver better, right?

Just remember that, open your eyes and know the world is a big wonderful place and you will find someone who will fit you better. Move on, move on.

Find someone hotter, younger and sluttier, that should do the trick. Stop feeling sorry for yourself.