Know of any couples that got divorced right after getting married? How soon after? And a big wedding?

I know someone who was divorced within a year. They were young (about 22?) and had been dating for at least 1-2 years prior to the wedding. It was weird, because they started having problems and he moved out and then he just decided to divorce. She was willing to try to make it work but he just totally gave up...so they got divorced.

Other than that, I only know of someone who got divorced after 3 years, but that was a shotgun wedding....

I imagine that people who divorce so fast either weren't together for very long in the first place, were very young, or someone develops some kind of dramatic problem -- like getting charged with sexual assault, etc. Either that or they were drunk at Vegas.

ETA: Oooh! I just remembered one. They were married two weeks and the wife up and left to join some weird semi-cult in Asia. NO JOKE! Then again she was known as a free spirit who had her share of good times. I think it was a small and casual wedding. Still, though...two weeks...cult (no, she wasn't brainwashed). Wild.

I never bought into there being any correlation between the cost of a wedding and it's liklihood of lasting/ending. I think people who go through a lot of effort to have a wedding either just want a huge show OR they consider it a landmark moment in life worthy of the pomp and circumstance. On the other hand, people who do JP weddings might not consider a wedding a big deal, and might toss their marriage aside just as quickly as they got into it. Again, I think there's so much more to why couples last or don't than what they spent on their wedding day.

I had college friends whose marriage only lasted 18 months, if that. Their wedding was quite modest, though. Everyone was taking bets on how long it would be before they were divorced.

There is no sure fact or statistics whether a small or big wedding can cause a couple to divorce soon after the wedding or to even divorce at all. I my personal opinion, I think the longevity of a marriage has a lot to do with the money-managing beliefs of the bride and groom and will eventually determine how successful their marriage will turn out.

For example, (not in all cases of course), if the couple has similar beliefs in religion, money, politics, finances, children (or lack of), there is a lower risk of divorce. My husband and I clash on many topics, but we also agree on many of them, but we somehow find a commonground somewhere and learn to live and love each other for our bad and good sides.

I honestly believe that if we were compatible, it doesn' matter if we spent $1 or $100,000 on the wedding, we would still be together. If the foundation of the relationship is strong, there would not be a divorce right after a big or small, expensive or inexpensive wedding.

We spent $150 for the court to marry us. We are now going to spend $30,000 next week to throw the party for family, friends and all the fancy stuff. But we both see eye to eye on what we can afford and both agreed to do it. I think that's what's really important.

I've seen somebody mention that they heard that the larger a wedding, the more likely the couple is to divorce, but they didn't cite any sources so it may not be accurate.

I've personally known two couples who were looking at divorce within a year of getting married. In both of those cases, they just had a small justice of the peace wedding with hardly anybody there. Both scenarios had one person begging the other for a wedding, and the other person really not wanting to go through with getting married at all. In both cases, the "commitment-phobe" was really dragging their heels about getting married for the longest time and finally decided to just go and get it over with. They got married within a few days of setting the date. Then they realized soon after the wedding that they would rather be single than be married to the other person and everything collapsed.

Yes, I know of two.....

ONE, they filed for divorce about 2 months (!) after the wedding. Yes, it was a huge wedding.

The other one...again, HUGE (400+ people) and they were only married about 6 months.

However, there is no correlation between the expenses and early divorce. Nor is there any correlation between the amount of guests (large wedding or small) and divorce. The simple statistics are 50/50.

An old hair stylist of mine had a huge wedding some years back. She was probably 30 at the time, and had 17 bridesmaids stand up in her wedding - big family - and about 6 months later she started seeing an old boyfriend of hers, divorced the husband and started planning for 2nd wedding. I knew something was going on when she stopped sleeping at home and would stay overnight with friends. All of a sudden she couldn't wait to get a new engagement ring and brand new wedding dress - it was also around that time I stopped going to her - too weird for my blood!!

An old friend of mine was with her boyfriend for over 5 years when they got married. They lived together for 2 of those years. Her parents paid for most of the wedding and I think it was around $20,000. Three months after the wedding she told him that she didn't want to be married to him anymore because she had cheated on him at her bachelorette party, which I was at and had no idea! He wanted to work it out and she said no. And instead of just having it annulled, she wanted a divorce so that she wouldn't have to admit to cheating on paper! It was ridiculous. She knew how she felt before the wedding and she should have just canceled the wedding.

Sort of. I had an average or below average cost wedding. I think it cost somewhere between $4,000 and $6,000. Marriage lasted 2 weeks b4 I moved out and took 4 months to reach an agreement to sign the divorce papers. We had been together for 7 years b4 we married. So not everyone is a textbook case. Yes, we knew each other, but I "woke up" after we signed the papers and realized that this was not how I wanted to live my life, and not the person I wanted to live it with....

Congrats and good luck on your marriage!

Yes, a huge wedding in which the parents were still paying for years afterward because it was so expensive. They got divorced/annulment perhaps, 6 months after the wedding. Nobody ever even got a thank you for their gifts even.

My niece was in divorce proceedings within six months of her $25,000 wedding. It was obvious to everybody but the two of them that they were not right for each other (different backgrounds, completely different political and social views, completely different ideas about how to handle money, a nine-year age difference, no solid agreement about children, her family and friends didn't like him, his family and friends didn't like her, and on and on). It turns out there were significant things about him that she didn't know--he hid them and she never asked enough of the right questions. She was much more interested in getting married (because all her friends were) than in being married, and he was much more interested in the image of a pretty wife than he was in a marriage. That's why they didn't make it. Sad, really.

EDIT: Though in this case, the size of the wedding was a factor (she wanted a wedding, not a marriage), I don't see that correlation in general. I know people who had modest weddings who divorced, and several couples who had relatively lavish weddings who are about to celebrate their 25th anniversaries. I also know people who had modest weddings who have been married a long time, and people who had lavish weddings who didn't make it long term.