RSVPs are lagging and wedding is this December. When do we start politely asking people to respond?

I would wait until after Thanksgiving, and start calling. Tell people that the caterer's deadline is the middle of December, and you are asking so that you may have the list ready by then.

It was not a bad idea to send the invitations early, I myself, at my former job, would not have been able to attend unless I gave several months notice to ask for vacation.

But people do forget, or put replying off, for a very many reasons.

If you are already talking to someone who got an invitation, I would bring up the subject of the wedding.

Hi.

OK....I read the question and the added information.

Question: Did YOU put down a deadline date? Usually there is one.

Truthfully, I agree with the others. Wait until the end of November (after Thanksgiving) to do any calling. Also, the problem with sending the invites early (I do understand your reasoning), is that people most likely thought....."oh my...this is not until New Year's Eve" so they have put it aside.

Also, are there older people that possibly do not have access to a computer? In any case, I would wait until after Thanksgiving and then start calling. That still gives you

1 full month to do more planning.

Generally invites to a wedding are mailed out 6-8 weeks prior to the wedding, so you kind of jumped the gun a bit on this. The earliest I've heard of deadlines for responses is about 4 weeks out. That gives you plenty of time to call those who didn't respond, and get your final headcount firmed up without stressing it all.

Now, with you getting married during the holiday season, you do need to allow extra time. I'd probably start calling people the first couple of weeks of November, especially those whom you know will have to travel. If they haven't made travel plans by then, it's highly unlikely they're planning on attending, so you can simply cross them off the list. Maybe call the local folks the week after Thanksgiving, before all the holiday craziness starts up for most folks.

Also, you don't have to make these calls alone. I'd have family and friends helping, especially if you have a lot of calls to make. Your fiance's family can handle contacting their friends and relatives, and yours can handle contacting yours. You and your fiance can contact your friends that you've invited.

Congrats on your upcoming wedding, and I wish you the best of luck!

Were these save the dates or actual invitations. The invitations are typically sent 6 - 8 weeks before the wedding. Unless guests are traveling, Some don't know their schedule this far in advance. I assume you did not give a date to respond by so you can politely call anyone you're concerned about and ask if they have received the invitation.This is the reason we usually have a reply by date.

Many people can not be definite about engagements until 30 days ahead. You sent out your invitations too early for most times of the year but, considering Christmas travel, etc., in this case you probably sent them on time BUT you are extremely fortunate that 1/3 responded already. (Don't be shocked if some of those call later to change their response, by the way - life happens!) Your caterer doesn't need the final head count until two weeks prior to the day but no doubt you are worrying about the number of favors to buy, place cards, etc. It would be rude to phone people before December 1st and it would be rude of your guests not to respond before December 1st. the 30-day time element seems to be the usual deadline.

First...when do you have to have your final count by? I would remind guest's a couple weeks before that date. I found i had the same problem..i got alot of replys back the first two weeks after the invites went out and then it dwindled. Personally i don't understand why it takes some guest so long to reply, you are either coming or your not! ( i am having the wedding locally so they will not have to travel far).i ended up waiting until the last day of my due date and calling all of those who didn't send a reply back. Most of them just forgot or misplaced the reply! GOOD LUCK!

It's a bit early to even send out the invites. Most people won't reply until after your deadline (which is typically a week before the wedding) and then many of them will come in all at once. Some people won't reply at all in which case you need to call them.

desirable? Heck, that's quite plenty required! How else are you going to get a variety on your caterer? I waited a pair of week after the RSVP date and had my dad and mom and his dad and mom touch all and sundry. The day formerly my very final count variety became due, I stated as all and sundry I knew his dad and mom did no longer call. "hi, it incredibly is _____, ____'s fiancee. I had to call because of the fact we had some worry with getting the RSVP's back, because of the cost of stamps going up while we sent the invites out. I might desire to get an rather final count variety to my caterer, so i might desire to renowned if we would be seeing you there. thank you plenty. Have a great day!" I do believe the poster that in many circumstances you shouldn't say which you probably did no longer acquire the guy's RSVP, yet in my case i became giving them a waiting-made excuse. I knew the cost boost did no longer impact my stamps (I had made particular of it while i offered them) however the travellers did no longer know that. It became a non-confrontational, no one's-to blame rationalization why we perchance did no longer get their reaction. And regardless of their reaction, I asked no questions. the two reported, "Oh, we will omit you!" or "can no longer wait to work out you there!" i'm curious besides, why you're saying that's no longer ok? you may desire to get a variety on your caterer. Are you going to wager? Are you going to assume no reaction skill they do no longer seem to be coming? it quite is a risky pass because of the fact some human beings might have purely forgotten.

I don't think it's time to panic yet. Most people don't even send out their wedding invitations until 10-8 weeks before the wedding. So, it seems that you have sent yours out pretty early! Your timeline depends on when you have to let your venue know your final count. If you have to let them know three weeks before the wedding - you should start calling your guests about 4 1/2 weeks before the wedding.

Wow . . . this is early to be expecting RSVP's.

When does your caterer need a final head count? The final RSVP date should be 2 or 3 days before that, giving you enough time to call those who have not responded.

Expecting people to respond in September for a 12/31/08 wedding is a bit much . . . way too early!