can a woman love you but not want to marry you?!?

Women really want a guy who is going to be supportive who seem to be secure. Maybe she really likes you as a person but is unsatisfied with decisions that you are making in your life right now. You have a lot of potential but you aren't making the most of it. Maybe you are really smart but you haven't finished college, you don't have a job, you aren't strong and she doesn't feel protected by you. It could be something like this where the girl has strong feelings about, but likes you a lot. It sounds like a conflict of heart and mind with the way that she moves back and forth.

I think so. My auntie and uncle love each other and have never gotten married. They don't plan to get married either. However they have a real realationship without the wedding ring.

Something about the part where she said that she doesn't want a real realationship caught my eye and may be the same reason why you are feeling used. Maybe she just doesn't know what she wants at the moment.

I was deeply in love with a woman who was 14 years my senior; I was 24 at the time. She was equally fond of me. The relationship lasted 3 years, when she asked me to marry her and I froze, I simply couldn’t say yes because of the age gap. I now have a loving relationships, which is now in its fourth year. I still think back of those years with that woman. It was the happiest time of my life and I said “No”. She’s still in my mind and I can’t help wondering what life would have been like if I had said yes.

It sounds awful to me to say "that woman". Her name is Heather.

Of course! Maybe this girl was just nervous, or maybe something else in her life was effecting her. It sounds like she cares about you a lot, but she doesn't want to get into the whole marriage thing straight away. It's fine! She's probably a bit shy. Girls say things that they don't really mean all the time!

how do you know you love the married man? are you seeing him? have you spent much time with him? how do you know he loves you? people often confuse the feeling of excitement or infatuation with love. maybe you are just attracted to him or find him interesting and new. before you break up your marriage, and his, you should ask yourself some questions. do you really want to change 4 peoples lives? if you love your husband, i suggest talking to him about this and going for some therapy. maybe the 2 of you just need to work on your relationship. especially if you have kids.

Maybe she does truly love you but isnt quite ready for marriage. It's quite possible that someone can love another person but doesnt want to get as far as marriage.

Ok.

First off, learn to write a complete sentence. Second, you have to establish a relationship before you think about marriage. Thirdly, all of this could have avoided if you had simply told her how you felt. In any relationship the key to understanding one another is communication, but if you speak the way you write, I can understand why things went the way they did.

u can love sum1 and dont wana marry them.but that wat u wrote sounds weird.it like she jus wanted u as and wen she wanted u.maybe she led u on a little and didnt consider ya feelings.but hey maybe shes frightend of commitment at this point in her life.she needed to be clearer wen giving u reasons y she didnt wana carry it on any further.she owes u dat.is she good at talking about these relationship issues???u need more answers cus its still open for discussion wouldnt u agree???

Maybe she was just scared, or maybe she was just playing with you. Who knows, only she does. Why don't you ask her, whats the worst that could happen? Maybe if you ask her and tell her how you feel it might just work out. Good luck!

You should give her time to think about it. She's probably thinking about the mistakes she made. You should call her and talk to her about it.