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My friend changed jobs in the military and when back for retraining 6 months ago where she meet her current boyfriend. After spending 3 months at a different base she was post to a base 3 hours from him & they continued to see each other once a month on weekends.

As soon as she move she got pregnant! She told her boyfriend (20 years old) who has shown no interest in the baby at all. When she had a scan she sent him a photo at which point he said. "oh I suppose you expect me to marry you now?" My friend is firmly convinced that he really wants to be a father & they will live happily ever after. The boyfriend gets deployed in 2 weeks for three months. I don't think that he will keep contact during or after as he has no plains to move closer.

My question is what do you think? Do you think he will stick around? Should I continue to not say anything or try & explain to her that he might just walk away all together?

My husband and I move interstate to be closer to his family. We had our first child who is 18 months and now are currently pregnant with our second, when they are due my first will be 2 years and 2 months old.

Although we live less than half an hour away from his sister (his mother passed away in January) she has nothing to do with our son, apart from commenting on facebook pictures. She has told more than once that she would be able to really get involved with this baby if it was a girl. In my sons 18 months she has only seen him less than ten times, and only when we have either brought him to her. When he was first born she drove passed our house and the hospital on her way home from work and never bothered to come visit him. Unless we are at a family event with the whole extended family she does not see him.

Recently I was joking with him that he wouldn't be able to come to the birth of this child as he would be looking after our son. At this point he said "oh my sister will do that!" I turned around and told him that our son does not know her and I would not be leaving him with someone he didn't know (she hasn't seen him in over four months). He told me that she was family and that he did know her, I just told him I would sort something out, but it left me really annoyed with him as these people make no effort because he is a boy!

Also my son is hardly ever out of my sight and is very attached to me and gets upset if I leave the room I worry that leaving him with people he doesn't know and bring home a new baby will be too much for him.

My question is what do you think? Do you think that I am being unreasonable, by not wanting to leave him with people who he doesn't know?

My sister got married at 19 then had four children in four years, the oldest is now 10. She has been separated from her husband for a year. They have both been investigated by the dhs for at least 3 years on and off, for reports from the kids school over their Hygiene, medical care, being severely underweight, and unable to provided basic needs.

Both parents, since being separated send the kids (10,9,8,&7) to school, late, without breakfast and lunch (yes in the one day), no jumpers in winter, their Hygiene has left them with out any friends and two of them are constantly bullied because of it.

The DHS has finally sent them to the forensic paediatric medical service, who has recommend statutory intervention.

So unless both parents complete in house parent classes, they will have their children removed. I believe since both parents believe and openly say that they are great parents, that they will not change and the children will be removed.

My question is I live interstate and wanted to know if anybody knew what chance I had at getting the custody of all four of them?

My mum is 70, and his family have little to do with them. The kids want to live with me, one of them has run away to come live with me before. I can't ask the case worker as she refuse to talk to me until one of the parents put me on the list. My sister is too lazy to do it.

Thank you for any comments or information you have.

I sleep my 5 month old baby on his back, the only problem is now he is able to roll over and I have to get up constantly to turn him back over. He is not even awake, he just wiggles so much in his sleep that he manages to turn on his stomach.

I am scared that he is going to hurt himself either from sleep on his belly or because he moves so much he normally bangs his head on the side on the cot. Today when my husband went to get him up he managed to wedge his arm between the cot and the matres . We have taken all the sids precautions, even bought him a sleeper which is suppose to keep him on his back. It hasn't worked.

I was wondering if anybody has had this problem? Or if you knew of anything else to keep him in the one spot whilst he is sleeping?

I had a macrosomic (big baby) he was almost 11lbs who is now 15 weeks old. I have to feed him constantly now, if he is awake he only goes 30minutes between feeds, if you stop he chews on his hands or anything he can get in his mouth for a few minutes until he cries for another feed. He since 6 weeks he has not need a night feed but for the last two weeks, he wakes sometimes twice a night for a feed. He is also really active.

I want to start him on solids, farex to see if that helps him not be so hungry all the time, but I am not sure if it is still two early, even though he is not quite four months, he is the size of the adverage seven month old. I still have a week before his next check up.

Has anyone else had a similar problem?

Has anybody else started solids before months?

Thank you in advance for any advise.

I'm 36+5 days, I had really bad morning sickness up until week 18. Then it cleared up. Now it seems to have come back twice as bad, I can't keep anything down.

The baby seems happy enough it moves around a lot, when I was checked last week I was having constant braxston hicks contractions, and still am.

I was just wondering if this has happened to anybody else.

I am currently 14 weeks pregnant, and we recently got married. Ever since we got married, she has constantly complained about the wedding, which we had interstate where my family lives. Her list of complains contains, the time the guest left, the other guest, my mother, my father, the minister, the family friend that did a short speech during the ceremony

Now that I am pregnant, it has turned to that. My friend and I who went and bought some baby stuff the other week since then she has gone out of her way to openly tell me that "her grandchild" will not be getting second best and she has already picked everything that the baby needs and I don't need to worry about it.

She has also gone as far as to get two sets of everything, so we can just bring the baby over and leave the baby there with her every second week, without having to pack anything. I have not intention of leaving my child there as she smokes around me whilst I am pregnant, I assume she will around the baby too.

When we where there last night, she then constantly went on about all the stuff that I should know about looking after a new born, I'm only 14 weeks.

What I am wondering is this normal behavior for a mother in law?

Or can I tell my husband to tell his mum to pull her head in?

My fiance and I, live interstate to where the wedding is to be held,in 11 days! I visited in September and organized and booked nearly everything, when I was down there for two weeks, I only saw my maid of Honor once whilst I was there as she had plains with her boyfriend and his friends. The only thing I asked her to do was book someone for make up and hair, and get her dress. I ended up booking the hair & make up, as she didn't bother to do it.

My mother is a dress maker and she made my dress whilst I was there. After I left in September, my maid of Honor was to contact my mother whom she knows quite well, to get fitted for her dress.

Its now 11 days out, and she has only attended two of her fittings for her dress, and doesn't seem to understand that even if she between jobs she still needs to go to them. She constantly rings me up and tells me that the dress isn't what she wanted and that she doesn't like it, etc...

My fiance wants to just call her up and tell her not to worry about it, and hire a dress for my other friend. We are only having one brides maid as we wanted a small wedding.

My question is what would you do would?

Would you change brides maids so close to the wedding?

I have four nieces (8,7,6,&5), all to my not overly responsible sister. I live interstate and try to come down as often as I can to check up on them.

On this visit I have noticed some problems with the 6 year old and her eating habits. At meal times we (I stay with my Mother) sit them down to eat, and the other three eat what is put in front of them, but the six year old eats two bites and then decides that she is not hungry and refuses to eat anymore. She does this every time.

We have tried everything to get her to eat, making her what she picks for dinner, bribing her, she just refuses to eat. In two days she ate half a sand witch, and 1/8th of a chicken. I made her sit at the table until she had eaten it all up, and she just waited until I was not looking and got down hid it in the corner on the floor for the dog to eat.

At the moment she weighs less than the 5 year old and hasn't gained any weight in 6 months. I tried talking to her mother (my sister) about it, but she just laugh it off.

My questions is has anybody ever seen this before, and what would you do?

Thanks for any advise.

My seven year old neice was fully toilet trained at 2 & half, night time as well. The day she started school, at 5 she started to wet her pants, day & night. At the same I time I left to live in another state, she wanted to come with me and got to the point where she actually packed her bag to come, she cried for hours when I left.

Since the then I came home to vist her and she stops as soon as I get there, and starts up when I leave again. She came to stay with my fiance and me, and stopped the day she got here, and started the day she got home.

My sister and bother in law who are not overly interested with their four ( aged 5,6,7,8) kids ( I am being nice), have taken her to the doctor who gave her these pills to "dry her out" they stop her from peeing as much. But due to side effects she is no longer on them.

My question is has anybody else seen this? Or what could be causing it?

Also what can I do to help her?

Thanks for any answers.

We moved interstate to my fiance's home town with our work (we work for the same company) about six months ago.

Since we have started work, I have hardly seen him the was given an area over an hours drive away and leaves at 6:30am and returns after 7 each night. When he does come home he usally eats dinner and goes in to the office and keeps working until he goes to bed. We used to have the same days off each week, but now he picks days off that he knows I can't get. He knows that I am not getting on well at work either as the other managers are all related to each other, and I don't fit in.

We are plaining our wedding in my home town, which I haven't been to in over eight months. I am starting to thinking about going there all the time, to the point I can't even call my Mum, becasue it makes me want to cry.

So now I am at the point where I don't want to leave the house or do anything anymore. So my question is am I just home sick?

Thanks for any answers.

We took our cat (who adopted us) to the vet and he was under weight 4.7kg and now he is on a weight gaining diet. But nobody told us how much he should weigh!

So if anybody can tell us how much the adverage short hair domestic cat should weigh, 10 points.

Thanks.

I live interstate with my fiance, and as a result I don't get to see my four neices 5,6,7,&8 (all to the one sister) very often. But I keep in good contact via phone at least once every two weeks, and when I go back I spend all my time with them, and keep fairly close with them.

I wanted for our wedding to have them as flower girls, as we are plaining on a small wedding party, with a bridesmaid and no best man (his choice). But when I was talking to them on the phone, all four of them flat out refused to do it.

My question is what would you do to get them to do it? Or should I just face it that they are not going to do it?

Thanks for any comments.

My fiance and I are from different states, and we now live in his home town with his family. We plained to have the wedding back on the otherside of the country, in my home town where my family lives.

Anyway my mother has taken it upon herself to orgainse it, which is good as I am far away, but she wants to have the repection in a hall that does not allow alchol. Its fine for my family as they don't drink, & nor do I, but my friends and my fiance's family all do drink.

I was wondering what would you do, is it odd to have a wedding where you have no alchol? What should I tell my mother?

Thanks for any advise that you have for me.

I live interstate from both my parents, a few months ago my mother came to vist me for three weeks. The day she returned home, my father gave her divorce papers ( they still lived together). He has since moved out and took most things in the house, at no point did he speak to me, which is not all that unsual.

I recently got engaged and sent him an email to let him know (its the only contact info I have for him).

A month later he emailed me back and said "I don't know what to say, you have never told me anything. You left and never told me anything. I will thank you for this information." That was all he said.

My question is should I bother to keep contacting him, about the engagement, or just send him an invite when it comes up?

My fiance wants to call him, but I told him no as I don't have any phone numbers for him, but I could get them if I really wanted to.

Thanks for any advise!

I have to meet my fiance's entire family including people from the UK. I have only meet his mother and sister before, as we have been living out of state until recently. I am terrible with names and not really good with social situations, its a BBQ at his uncles place.

Does anybody have any advise on how to get past this, I think that I will spend the entire time in a coner trying to pretend I am not there, and I don't want to offend his entire family. Well not just yet.

My fiance and I have been together for three years, we just moved to his home town. He proposed, and then returned to another state to finish work. When I asking him about the wedding he says that he doesn't care & if I have it my home town there is no way he would invite anybody, as he doesn't want anyone to be out of pocket for it. He wants to get married in Las Vegas now, without any family at all. This would brake my mum's heart.

I have always been a tom boy and never worn a dress or skirt, but for some reason I really want to have a wedding where I can get all dressed up, and have that one day.

How do I convince him to have a wedding? I really want this and I know in a couple of years I will regret not having a wedding, and I don't want this to come between us.

I have been dating my fiance for a couple of years, I never meet or spoke to his parents, until we got engaged, as we were living in different states, and every time we plained to vist them something came up. We have since moved to his home town. His mother was excited to meet me, but since my fiance has returned interstate to finish work, haven't seen her since. I want to have the wedding in my home town, which is on the other side of the country, as I don't know anybody here, and my mum has her heart set on it. But I don't want to offend my future mother in-law, or make her feel not welcome, my fiance is an only child.

I wanted some ideas on how to get to know her better, without my fiance. Any ideas?