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How is your opinion, when younger husband keep saying in front of his older wife; Is that offensive? He discount his wife's feeling

problem is my husband always says I am the only woman he loves, so I was over confident to be absent at home for job, and I found 18 sexy used women underpants hidden in his jacket's pocket in wardrobe for 10 years, because I did respect his privacy, never touch anything not belong to me, and that's is A REWARD from my true love, I cried and cried ... what can I do, my problem is I do love him I never want to lose him, I waited for him stop talking with his friend in livingroom, I call him come into bedroom, and showed him all underpants I displayed on our marriage bed, -"darling, please tell me what are these" - He kept quiet and grabbed all putting in plastic bag, I forced him to BURN right away in the garden, and after many black cold days, I tried to make him confess, but he kept avoiding to answer, and then one day he said because when I was not home he felt LONELY and thought I never care about him - make excuse - what kind of punishment I should do to him I wait for good advices